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Why so serious?

{{< highlight_txt >}}"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the present."{{< /highlight_txt >}} -- Master Oogway

Everybody knows that they should live in present, but does everybody live? We live in present when we enjoy doing stuff we love. And we don't when things don't work out our way.

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What you were doesn't matter, What you are does. What happened doesn't matter, What is happening does.

• Smile, be happy, nothing is permanent, let go.
  • See happiness.
  • Ultimately your willingness to let go of the person you used to be, creates a space for the person you strive to be.
• Stop weighing yourself against how you think your life is “supposed” to go and just live it in the way that makes you happy. {{< highlight_txt >}}Life is an adventure not a tick box exercise.{{< /highlight_txt >}}
  • Let go of yourself, the "I" part. You are your experiences and the things you did. Not what your thought you could do or could have done.
  • Be satisfied, {{< highlight_txt >}}being ambitious is okay but be satisfied.{{< /highlight_txt >}} You can't become the best at everything.
  • ये दुनिया जो है जादू का खिलौना है, मिल गया तो मिट्टी और खो गया तो सोना है |
    • See envy
• Role-play your life, add some salt or some spice, whatever you want, bring some magic to it.
  • "Act out being alive, like a play. And after a while, a long while, it will be true." --East of Eden

Experience called Life

• It comes down to one single choice: {{< highlight_txt >}}"Get busy living or get busy dying"{{< /highlight_txt >}} -- The Shawshank Redemption
  • A measure for this - If you don't have new stories to share, are you living? When your stories keep getting repetitive, its a sign your life is becoming dull.
• Take more risks. The fear of rejection is only temporary.
  • Never ever shy away from new activities/experiences, even if you know you will fail or embarrass yourself.
  • Only crazy stories make the cut.
  • A lot of times you fail due to things out of your control. And you have to learn to be okay with it. This doesn't mean you need to stop introspection, but that when things go wrong it is not necessary that you or someone around you could have done something different to make it right.
• Keep the windows open, a sense of freedom comes from the cold breeze brushing your cheeks and flowing through your hair.
• See maturity.

Self Journey

Grow yourself

• Learn as many skills as possible.
• Workout, run, go to the gym - keep challenging your body.
• Socialise
  • Join all sorts of offline groups to socialise more.
  • Do activities that enable socialising - going out for lunch/dinner with colleagues, playing football together, trekking etc.
  • Surround yourself
• Read books,
  • it expands your mind, open up you to ideas and possibilities
  • it makes you capable to hold conversation about any topics with anybody
• Love, get your heart broken
  • "Your heart needs to break multiple times for it to open up." -- Rumi
• Growth has a network effect. You grow with your close ones, their growth will catalyse your growth. Find like minded people to grow.
  • This network effect also has high risk - high growth angle. Growth rate will be higher for a person who is nobody, but has high risk too.

Get perspectives

• "Everyone tells you what's good for you. They don't want you to find your own answers. They want you to believe theirs." -- Dan Millman, Way of the Peaceful Warrior
  • People have their own journey. You can learn from them. You can use their wisdom to find your OWN path.
• आपके भगवान मरते रहना चाहिए
  • Over time, your thoughts (and perspectives) should evolve, likewise, either your ideals should adapt and evolve, or you should continue to adjust your ideals accordingly

• जीवन में किसी भी point के कई अर्थ हो सकते हैं, बहुत जटिल अर्थ हो सकते हैं, लेकिन जो दृश्यमान (visible) है, जो निश्चित है, जो कोई भी इनकार नहीं कर सकता, वह लेकर चलो।
• Sometimes there are no right decisions to make; only choices you decide to live with.
• नजर को बदलो तो नजारे बदल जाते हैं, सोच को बदलो तो सितारे बदल जाते हैं, कश्तियाँ बदलने की जरूरत नहीं दिशा को बदलो किनारे खुद ब खुद बदल जाते हैं

Prioritise yourself

• Put your oxygen mask on first
  • Take care of yourself before others
  • No one in your life is there till the very end, it's your personal journey. You are the driver and the passenger as well. So, {{< highlight_txt >}}drive forward, eyes on the road, windows open and foot on the pedal as well as the brakes!{{< /highlight_txt >}}
  • वरणभात लोंचा कोन नाई कोंचा
• Respect yourself above others
  • Always keep yourself at the centre stage, not in sense where everything happens around you, but in sense where you give yourself more priority.
  • If you don't respect yourself, no one will. If you let bad things happen to you, why would others care.
  • If you think of others getting uneasy or uncomfortable, comfort them, but not at the cost of your self-respect. Think of yourself getting uncomfortable.
  • Never ever let anyone disrespect you. Ever. In front of anyone doesn't matter.
• Someone’s expectation is not your responsibility. Any expectation is bound to lead to disappointment, today or tomorrow.
  • You don't need to reply to every message/call you get. You need to set priorities and take care of those priorities.
  • If some unknown number gives miss call, don't call back. If he/she got some important work he/she will call back.
  • The silence in the conversation or boring response from the other end of the conversation is not your fault. Don't hold yourself responsible for having a fantastic conversation.

Be the driver

• Lead your life, lead your relations, don't be a passive person. Laid back attitude won't get you anywhere.

• Speak up
• Self-control is strength. Calmness is mastery.
  • You have to get to a point where your mood doesn't shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else. Don't allow others to control the direction of your life.
  • Don't allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence.

What's your destination

• "Alice came to a fork in the road. 'Which road do I take?' she asked. 'Where do you want to go?' responded the Cheshire Cat. 'I don't know,' Alice answered. 'Then,' said the Cat, 'it doesn't matter." -- Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland."

• {{< highlight_txt >}}A person who doesn't know what he wants (goals), is at the mercy of his emotions.{{< /highlight_txt >}} Emotions can make you do stupid and insane things that make you cringe later.

  • अपने उद्देश्य से ज्यादा महत्वपूर्ण जीवन में कुछ नहीं होना चाहिए, बस अपना काम करने की आदत होनी चाहिए और जीवन में कोई भी व्यक्ति आए उसके लिए अपना काम न करना अच्छी बात नहीं होनी चाहिए

• हर बार चलती ट्रैन में नहीं चढ़ना होता हे

  • Not all opportunities coming along your way are worth taking

• "Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever. " -- Lance Armstrong

• "Unless someone truly has the power to say no, they never truly have the power to say yes"

Inner Peace

• I'm slowly learning that even if I react, it won't change anything, it won't make people suddenly love and respect me, it won't magically change their minds. Sometimes it's better to just let things be, let people go, don't fight for closure, don't ask for explanations, don't chase answers and don't expect people to understand where you're coming from. I'm slowly learning that life is better lived when you don't centre it on what's happening around you and centre it on what's happening inside you instead. Work on yourself and your inner peace
• If it costs you your peace, its too expensive.
• "ठंडा दिमाग, मीठी जुबां और नरम दिल - ये तीन चीज़ें अगर कर ली इंसान ने तोह पार"

Respond, don't react

• You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you or shakes your arm, making you spill your coffee everywhere.

  Why did you spill the coffee?

  “Because someone bumped into me!!!”

  Wrong answer.

  You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup.

  Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea.

  Whatever is inside the cup is what will spill out.

  Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which WILL happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It’s easy to fake it until you get rattled.

  So we have to ask ourselves…“what’s in my cup?”

  When life gets tough, what spills over?

  Joy, gratefulness, peace and humility?

  Anger, bitterness, harsh words and reactions?

  Life provides the cup, YOU choose how to fill it.

  Today let’s work towards filling our cups with gratitude, forgiveness, joy, words of affirmation; & kindness, gentleness and love for others.

• See anger

Retrospect

• Whenever a habit/addiction is being formed, think hard about its impact. Genius is to know when to stop.
  • Neuroplasticity is a dynamic process that happens constantly with each decision.
    • Every time you check you instagram while trying to study, you are re-enforcing the habit to keep doing it.
    • Every time you focus your entire attention on one single activity at a time, you are making your homing your concentration and dedication.
    • Every time you give in to temptation and at the marshmallow, you are teaching yourself that its okay to break.
• Be self aware
  • Know why you did what you did, why you are doing what you are doing. Be self aware, be conscious.
  • Keep your life, your thoughts, your decisions uncluttered. Know your steps.
• Be real to yourself, don't lie
  • You have to hide certain information at times for public eyes

Presenting Yourself

Think and Speak

• "If you propose to speak, always ask yourself: Is it true; is it kind, or is it necessary?" -- Socrates?
• Before you speak, be clear, know what you want to speak.
  • Don't go out of context.
  • Don't repeat yourself

Talking Thesis

• Talk about your thesis, your ideas, your problems
• Before any conversation starts, or you call somebody be prepared about what you want to talk about - thesis (which thesis).
• Find a person with whom you can share, on whom you can run your ideas, figure out.

Ethics

• Be a man of your words. You are watching yourself every minute, every second, make it count.

  • Be punctual. Always be on time you commit.

• Stop abusing. Kids abuse, adults act.

• Always preach what you have practised

  • Don't be "आज सीखा, कल चीखा"

• Never ask for something you wouldn't do.

• Share praise, own failure.

  • See leadership

• Vices and Virtues

  • See 7 deadly sins
  • “We have only one story. All novels, all poetry, are built on the never ending contest in ourselves of good and evil. And it occurs to me that evil must constantly respawn, while good, while virtue, is immortal. Vice has always a new fresh young face, while virtue is venerable as nothing else in the world is.” ― John Steinbeck, East of Eden

• "Some people are just born human, the rest of us, we take a lifetime to get there"